Being There | Grief Help Poems

Being There
(Grief Poems Loss Of Child)

Do you know of someone
whose precious child has died?
Perhaps she is a neighbor or friend
with whom you can confide.

You assume that she is suffering
a tragedy so deep ..
That there is nothing you can do
since all she does is weep.

You feel that if you see her
there is nothing you can say ..
That would make her precious
child come back
Or make the pain go away.

And if by chance you meet her
and have to face her grief ..
You’ll do your very best
to make this meeting brief.

You’ll talk about the weather
or the lady down the lane ..
But you’ll never mention her child
that would cause her too much pain!

And when the funeral is over
and all is said and done ..
You’ll go home to your family
and she’ll be all alone.

She’ll go on, she’ll be all right
time heals or so it seems ..
While she’s left alone to pick up the pieces
of her shattered life and dreams.

– OR-

You can open up your heart
and find that special place ..
Where compassion and true giving
are awaiting your embrace.

‘Today I’m thinking of you
in a very special way,’ ..
Or, how about ‘I love you!.’
are some loving things to say.

Sometimes a very simple task
like picking up the phone ..
Can help her feel not-so-quite
desperately alone.

Whatever comes from a genuine heart
can not be said in vain ..
For the truth is, it’s these very things
that lessen her great pain.

And when you let her talk about her child
who is now dead but in Heaven ..
You’ll know this is far greater
than anything you’ve said.

So will you reach out with all your soul
and let her know you care?
For in the end there’s no substitute
for simply BEING THERE!

– Debi L. Pettigrew